#ONE THING ALL CHEATERS HAVE IN COMMON SERIAL#

We get so much validation and attention (otherwise known as LOVE BOMBING) from serial cheaters at the beginning but before we know it, when we’re already in too deep, things start to shift.Īttention and words are so easy and it’s important to keep an eye on their behaviour over time. And these ‘chronic liars’ lure us into a false sense of security at the beginning with their words and their gestures.

So how do we find ourselves in these relationships? Whether someone is a narcissist or a sociopath, or indeed both - these characteristics pair well together. Traits of deceitfulness, manipulation and lack of remorse with zero empathy for their impact on others has been found time and time again in chronic cheaters. Yes, that’s right, it is possible for a person to have traits of both (not ideal, we know). In fact, a lot of narcissists are sociopaths. Basically, how can they use you to get what they want? To achieve personal gain, they can be found to exploit and manipulate those around them. What this means is that they really don’t feel that bad or upset if you are upset. Sociopaths, like narcissists, disregard others or their feelings,and in addition to this lack empathy for their wrongdoings. Over time, however, the truth of their behaviour starts to shine through. They say all of the right things, they do all of the right things and they make you feel like this is everything you could have ever wanted. They are often in superficial relationships and avoid intimacy but often they are wildly charming, attractive and successful too. They disregard others or their feelings and don’t realise the effect that their behaviour has on others.

Narcissists are highly self-involved, in fact, so self-involved that they ignore the needs of those around them and everything is secretly about them. Here’s the OPENHOUSE 101 run down on narcissism and sociopathy - because trust us, they can hide anywhere!īoth narcissism and sociopathy are personality traits. If you’ve found your partner to display narcissistic and / or sociopathic tendencies this is a major red flag and a tell-tale sign of pointing out a repeat cheater - someone that may cheat on you again, and again and again because it is part of their personality style. We asked Dr Tari Mack ‘ who is most likely to cheat?’ and she explained that there are two key personalities which have been found to be common amongst repeat cheating offenders. This doesn’t make it acceptable, but as we start to become more conscious of ourselves, and our patterns, we can start to more closely look inwards to understand why we do the things we do - as well as understanding why our partners act the same way too.Įach and every one of us has ingrained characteristics and patterns of behaviour that are not likely to change - and for those of us who cheat repeatedly, or have partners who do so, there are deeper challenges going on at the same time. Either way, have you ever wondered why the person you ‘loved’ or you yourself falls into these patterns time and time again? Is it a personality trait or a reflection of the situation itself? Can we predict cheating before it happens?Ĭheating is something that happens everywhere, all over the world, every single day. Perhaps you’ve been cheated on or perhaps you’ve been the cheater, or both. In Episode 10 of the OPENHOUSE Podcast, we discussed Cardi B & Offset - exploring the big, and sometimes, painful, question - why do people cheat and what are the top 10 traits of serial cheaters that you need to know about? You can find the episode on Spotify here or Apple Podcasts here where we discuss the psychology of cheating and so much more.

One thing all cheaters have in common